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Friday, July 3, 2009

The manner decides all

Has a child, was not careful bumps into the table to cry. After China's mother sees, the first movement is puts out a hand to hit the table, then roars the child: “clever! Does not cry!”. But Japan's mother is not this, she will request the child to circle the table to walk, will then inspire him: “the reason that the human will run upon the table, generally will have three kind of situations. First, you run too quickly, cannot stop the foot; Second, does not pay attention looks at the road; Third, you are thinking other matter at heart. Which kind of situation were you a moment ago belong to?” the table is dies, it will not hit the human on own initiative, therefore the human will run upon the table, will be person's mistake, but will not be table's mistake. China's mother puts out a hand to hit the table, was equal to that in the raise child, that is table's mistake, is not your mistake, grows the child under such education, meets the matter first is the shift responsibility, seeks for the reason which by any means possible for oneself gets free, but with all one's heart selects others' problem. Japanese mother's procedure, then wants in the raise child bravely to undertake own responsibility, but do not go to accusation others constantly. The child who grows under such education, everything always first examines own insufficiency. does actually, who very little have the matter to be able very thorough to distinguish clearly is wrong to who, often is everybody has the mistake, what is different is the mistake is wrong few. If each party concerneds can undertake own that responsibility, examines own insufficiency earnestly, what matter has that also had not to be able to solve? between the department and the department is also this, when others point out the insufficiency to us, first is not refutes, to argue, but first makes the self-criticism, is truly wrong, changes immediately, does not have wrong truly, also makes a caution, with the aim of even more taking seriously. the manner decides all. The similar matter, the manner is different, the result is also different.

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