Most beautiful distance

In rushing toward middle age time, she occasionally glances through her mind history, recalls in the life has known opposite sex friend, becomes aware a simple truth: Between the men and women the happiest one kind of distance, is actually away from a dinner table's distance. This is she summarizes from oneself with in an opposite sex friend's contact experience. 　　This year is she and he is acquainted with one another the 28th anniversary. 　　In the years perpetual flow, 28 years were also considered as on have been long, but middle this 28 years, she and he have had the shallot years which the schoolfellow altogether read, also have had the swan goose intercourse pure day, had have drunk the coffee together the romantic time. Has about 5 years is only each other contact blank, but in that blank's 5 years, he and her respective love, gets married respectively. Period also once had several times to meet by chance, either in bustling bookstore entrance, either in crowded four corners, but two people are only courtesy nod, no matter what on the face the tranquil smile hides the innermost feelings tumbling the mighty waves. 　　At that time, two people in could not find one kind to be together well at a loss the way. Until that year's February in early spring, in a schoolmate at the meeting, he and she meets once again. Hence, she understood, in the life some people are doomed with time for a lifetime to be also unable to forget. The human brain is impossible to look like the computer such to press “the deletion” the key on an instant blank, will forget desirably will instead deepen the memory the brand mark. Since each other also regards opposite party for the life in not to be able the error person, that feels at ease whatever the circumstances, gathers along with the reason, is the best choice. 　　Then, after love turns around quietly certain years, two person mind broadly and level heavy pendulum friendship banquet. Between men's and women's contact is very mysterious, surmounts from the friendship to love often is only the one pace, actually as if is being widely separated by the long and trying journey from love return friendship, but he and she can knowingly the long and trying journey distance concentration for very close, depending on is to the fate the respect and to the friendship belief. Actually, he and her fate stems from the school days a game. A that year winter's night, female schoolmate concentrates in the dormitory plays “picks up a game”: Scatters several dozens near on the window desk to exchange the bird shape the small paper, each small paper writes has Schoolmate Ban the Yiming male name, but she picks up in the laughter is his name at will, but his name said in her was an ordinary personal name merely at that time. Is ignorant of affair she, had not realized that perhaps to this is the choice which dark is doomed. Certain years later his name raises the difficult situation in hers one's inner world, she only then starts that which plays to the young girl time “to pick up a game” to harbor one kind of fate belief. 　　Recalled that Duan Xieai colleague's day, his each week asks her to drink coffee nearly. At that time, she longed for at heart becomes in his mind the most important female, but he always did not understand that asks for her favor with the sweet words and honeyed phrases, repeatedly stresses the mother in front of her is the most important person, actually did not know that these words will crush girl's self-respect which will flaunt superiority, will push to the pain her with the abyss which will despair. Many years later, circumstances changes with the time, she only then understood that his difficulties, loses the boy who the father loves to regard the maternal love like life since childhood to be also fair. 　　 Actually in society majority men thought that the mother is unreplaceable, she has forgiven him by such reason, henceforth no longer inquired into that oneself position which occupies in his heart. 　　 The year before last autumn, she, in a schoolmate dines together knew that his mother because of sickness in hospital, then quietly goes to the hospital to visit. This is she first time sees his mother. Facing that simple gentle old woman, she introduces oneself: “I am your son's old schoolmate the concurrently good friend.”His mother very quick then awakens: “oh, I have known, you are ......My son before mentions you frequently!”She sits before the hospital bed, smiles is listening to his mother to narrate his childhood story. The past events which after she recalled and suddenly once was in the past secret to occupy his mother, is jealous, was guilty immediately feels too ashamed to be in public. That moment, she respects at present old woman. Was precisely this mother has raised a conduct outstanding son stalwartly! Simultaneously she also feels grateful the Heaven to let her the age of young which does not dye in the fine dust know her son, and he life-long is the friend. 　　For many years, he and she has met place always dining room. In city many between dining room testimony their outside city dinner table time. Sometimes has a food to wear down for several hours, either discussed that work all sorts of joys and sorrows, either discussed that the life the introduction, elucidation, transposition and summary, always do not have the awkward silence. Actually he and her taste is not same. In they patronize frequently that west dining room, he most likes eating the beefsteak, but she most likes having the bamboo tube food. The coffee is two people likes moreover hundred drinking together does not tire. He in the dinner latter 0.1 pot coffee, she on the one hand mixes on the other hand the coffee to think frequently that perhaps at present coffee not necessarily is in society most delicacy coffee, but at present friend is absolutely most appropriate “the coffee whitener”. Static beauty time which smells as sweet in some coffee, she comprehends suddenly: Between the men and women the happiest distance, is not zero distance which is very close, is also not spirit meat union negative distance, but is a dinner table's distance. She likes with him between being away from a dinner table's distance, this is one kind may inquire after the well being of can avoid the distance which the Italian chaotic sentiment confuses, this is one kind may exchange the concern to be able to avoid the tangled up action the distance, such distance intimate has. 　　Is also precisely this kind appropriate “the dinner table distance”, caused him and she can pass the fervor years steadily, stepped into year of smoothly the reason. The bystander witnessed they when eating meal is merry the appearance, will perhaps be mistaken they to relate ambiguous, actually they will be very at heart clear, a dinner table, will be between each other's border between the states of Chu and Han, the emotion and the reason distinguishes right from wrong. In society some men and women associate end up to turn out the dreary result often are finally because they have not grasped the moderate distance. Between he and her, because has not burnt by the fervor on has also not been buried by the time ashes, also, because associates has not given full expression, but leaves behind the aftertaste which in each other life prolonged does not disperse. She and he such was together already achieved the zen to esteem one kind of named which “the flower has not opened all the month not circle” the boundary, this was the men and women associates the most mysterious boundary, because flower, once after all opened, will wither and fall, but month, once after entire circle, will be incomplete, was maintaining “the flower has not opened all the month not circle” the perfect condition, only then let the life the happy expectation forever inexhaustible boundless. 　　The youth once “will live the different quilt to refuse stubbornly to be buried together” regards as two sentiment liking each other eternity regrettable matter, the middle age is later clear, two people can share a table frequently dine, is also one kindMay meet the fate which cannot be asked. Ancient cloud: “hundred years repair the same boat to cross, the millennium repairs altogether rests the head on the dormancy”, but between he and her “shares a table the food” is also the result which at least half a lifetime repairs, therefore, she even more treasures this to sit in the dinner table opposite friend as well as at present meal, and harbors the mood which feels grateful, is filled with the friendship a cup the coffee to drink.